Making the Connection: Social Bonding in Courtship Situations

143 Words): Sociologists have long argued that the force of a social bond resides in a sense of interpersonal connection. This is especially true for initial courtship encounters when pairs report a sense of interpersonal chemistry. We explore the process of romantic bonding by applying interaction ritual theory, extended and integrated with methods from computational linguistics, to the study of courtship encounters, and specifically heterosexual speed dating. We find that the assortment of interpersonal moves associated with a sense of connection characterize a conventionalized form of initial courtship activity. The game is successfully played when females are the point of focus and engaged in the conversation, and males demonstrate alignment with and understanding of the female. In short, initial heterosexual courtship encounters reflect a reciprocal asymmetric game where differentiated roles are mutually coordinated, and a sense of bonding is associated with a successful situational performance.